Top ten simple tips for a blissful marriage
Do you want to have such a blissful marriage forever and ever? Here are ten simple tips that you can do. It’s simple yet powerful :)
1. Ask him..
Marriage is not mind reading, so ask your spouse what he wants. Don’t be hesitate to ask him what happens to him. Use what and why rather than who or whom, such as: what happened to you? Why do you look so sad? The next important step is believe what he says. The questions that you ask to him will show that you care to him. Then, if you trust him, he will feel better and he will do the same thing to you.
2. Share moments together..
It would be a wonderful thing if you and your spouse can share moments together. These moments can be in the form of spending time for the same hobby. Those moments will make both of you more intimate to each other whether both of you realize it or not.
3. Share the laughs
When you and your spouse have time together, don’t forget to play practical jokes to cheer up the moments and then share the laughs.
4. Give him comfortable space
Do you really love him? Well, give him space!! Don’t be with him 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Give him the chance to be with his friends. In other words, give him time to miss you. This will show that you trust him and it’s good for your relationship.
5. Agree to Disagree
You and your husband are two different people who have different personality, although just a little. So, it is not a surprising thing if sometimes both of you have different opinion on some issues. What to do is just appreciate your difference including differences of opinion. Always remember that those differences are what makes each of you unique and special. Just like colours; different colours will create the new wonderful colour.
6. Fight politely
There is always the time when you and your spouse have to fight each other because of something. There is no need to worry if it happens to you now and then. It’s normal, but you need to be careful in handling that matter. Make sure that every time you fight, you fight politely.
What does it mean? It means that both of you attack the issue, not each other. So, if you and your husband disagree about something, both of you should stay focused on the issue and skip the personal put-downs.
7. Say you’re sorry.
Trisha Taylor, psychotherapist, Houston, TX, said that in marriage, love sometimes means having to say you’re sorry even if you don’t know what you did or you didn’t mean to do it.
Never feel embarrassed to be the first to say sorry. By saying sorry, you’re also telling him that you are trying to understand his position and his feelings.
9. A little bit of tricks
Sometimes you need some tricks so you can cheer up the moments or to calm down it. One trick which works over and over is that if you’re running late when it’s your turn to make dinner, just set the table. That way your husband thinks he’ll be eating any minute, so he doesn’t start complaining, which buys you some time.
10. White lies
This is the last thing you need to do. Always remember that you do this just to temper the truth not to cheat your spouse. So, don’t do it often.
Use white lies only in situation which is better for you not to say the truth, for example when he looks like a ball in the new suit or when his mother gives you trouble and you can’t stand her.
Those tips above are easy to practice. Do it and build a blissful marriage with your spouse.
